Couples who stick together understand that marriage is a sacred and solemn mystery in the eyes of God. As a result, they enter the relationship with the attitude that divorce is not an option. They understand that marriage is a lifelong adventure, filled with triumphs and defeats. Like Jesus, “who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame” (Hebrews 12:2), they press on toward the goal in both good times and bad.
- If you had to define “marriage,” what words would you use? What makes marriage unique and different from any other human relationship?
- How would you describe your “long view” of your relationship? Where do you see yourselves in five years? Ten years? Twenty?
- When you run into obstacles, road-blocks, or conflicts in your marriage, what’s your “default” reaction? Do you get angry? Run home to mother? Blame one another? Or do you look for ways to solve the problem and move forward?
- Did you see lifelong commitment modeled in your family of origin? How has your experience affected your view of this concept? In the Marine Corps they say, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” Does this maxim apply to marriage? If so, how?Would you describe your marriage as “an adventure”? Would you like to make it more“adventurous”? If so, how?
- The Bible says, “A man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). What do you think it means to be “one flesh”?